About Coach Ela

I thought I'd be a great mom. I was an educator who had spent years working with children — I understood child development, I knew the theory, I genuinely loved kids. And then I had three of my own, and nothing worked the way I expected. There were tantrums, power struggles, sibling fights that never seemed to end, and a strong-willed child who brought out a version of me I didn't recognise. I was shouting more than I wanted to. I was triggered in ways I couldn't understand, let alone explain. I thought the problem was my children. It took me a long time to realise the problem was me — and that was actually the best news I ever received.

That realisation sent me back to study — not children this time, but myself. I trained as a Licensed Conscious Parent Coach, added it to my Master's Degree in Education and my years of Montessori training, and started doing the real work. The day I stopped reacting to my strong-willed child and started responding instead, something shifted in our entire home. The sibling conflict softened. The atmosphere changed. And my deeply feeling child — the one who had been quietly holding everything together — finally got the permission to just feel. Watching that happen is something I will never forget.

Now I work with moms who are living exactly where I was. Moms who are overwhelmed and reactive and can't understand why nothing is working. Moms of intense, deeply feeling children who are exhausted from fighting a child they don't yet understand. Moms who were the easy child themselves — and are now watching their own child disappear into people pleasing. I see all of you. Because I have been all of you.

My coaching is direct, compassionate and built on over two decades of working with children and families across every age. But more than any credential, what I bring to every session is this — I know what it feels like to be the mom you are right now. And I know with absolute certainty that it can change. Faster than you think. And in ways that will stay with your children long after they leave your home.